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I never thought I would hear my wife say that she actually wants to have surgery to remove her myoma (fibroid tumor), but that's exactly what she told me. Even after I explained that she would either have a myomectomy to remove only the tumor (not likely) or a hysterectomy to remove much more (likely), she still wants the surgery. I don't want her to have surgery because I know the tumor will shrink or disappear soon after she's finished going through menopause. The bad part about all this is that her desire for surgery is all my fault.
Surgery in the US as Opposed to Surgery in the Philippines
Before I lay it on the line and explain why it's all my fault, I want to explain why I want her to have the surgery in the Philippines vs. in the US.
First and foremost, I don't want to return to the US again in order to be with her for her surgery and the aftermath. I went through that in March of 2008, when she had both of her tonsils removed, and I don't want to do it again. The second reason is related to the first. If she has surgery in the US, there is no one there who can spend any time helping her with the process or the recovery.
Filipino surgeons are quite capable of performing either kind of surgery in the Philippines. My oldest sister-in-law had a hysterectomy several years ago due to having a fibroid tumor in a different location. My wife would have many relatives willing and able to help her out here (along with me of course).
I tried to get her to do the progesterone cream thing (along with taking something called Maca) so that the tumor would shrink somewhat naturally, but she isn't interested in doing it.
It's About Umm… Personal Relations
I made the mistake of telling my wife, because of the location of her tumor, that I wouldn't be having "personal relations" with her until after the tumor was gone, one way or another. She explained how it was possible to get around it but I couldn't imagine being able to do anything else during (or after) the process, regardless of how easy it might be. It's a mental thing.
I'm not old — I think I'm considered middle-aged at 48 — but my libido thinks I am. I can honestly say that sex became unimportant, for both of us, around the 15-year mark. I can also honestly say I have no idea why it's suddenly important to her.
Maybe it's a menopause thing.
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maybe it's not something about what she wants, but what she *could* want.
Computer analogy: it's like when you buy a motherboard with Firewire and you don't have any firewire peripheral and you also are 99% sure you'll never buy one. But who knows..maybe you'll buy a firewire peripheral.
I thought that saying "sex became unimportant" is a big no-no…
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Maybe. About using the word "sex" – it's not about using it, it's about using it too much. I've found that using certain words draws the wrong kind of traffic and I avoid using them.
Hi RT
I can't say that there was a problem with relations but my wife had pain issues in her case. The first doctor was all ready to cut (can you say butcher) but we got a second opinion and was told to wait and we are glad we did because the pain was temporary. I agree that Filipino surgeons are more than capable and the care you receive in and out of the hospital is much better than in the U.S. Actually I recently posted on my blog about how the new healthcare bill in the U.S. may benefit the Philippines.
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My wife had a fibroid removed without doing any other damage. It was a little scary but everything turned out OK. We had a really good surgeon. One thing I learned was to get 3 opinions before getting any type of surgery. Doctors like to perform surgery because it makes them rich. My wife went through 2 surgeries that were unnecessary. The fertility doctors love to do procedures that do nothing to help infertility.
Get several opinions!!!
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That make me be scare… Every woman can do preventive way with check their condition to a doctor and between man or woman, don't do free sex if you won't to sick…
I'm concerned too…
I went through surgery for the mioma.
I understand her feelings. Whatever she does please tell her not to use Zoladex.
I used that and I got so sick. I wish someone would have told me not to take that medication. I suffered terribly from it.
Hope she feels better.
All the best,
Eren
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I think it's the IDEA that it doesn't matter that hurts.
Computer analogy: it's like when you buy a motherboard with Firewire and you don't have any firewire peripheral and you also are 99% sure you'll never buy one. But who knows..maybe you'll buy a firewire peripheral.
Oh that big problem for every woman health…. Just keep our health we can safe from that disease…
A really good friend of mine is considering this surgery as well. She has actually been told that it will shrink on its own eventually, but for her it's causing some other issues. Her doctor seems to think that somehow it's connected to an iron deficiency that she has and that's causing her to have really low energy. I kind of hope that she'll wait it out for at least a few months.
Anyway RT I wish you good luck. I was aware of your wife's last surgery, even though I really didn't comment much back then.
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Hi RT,
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God Bless you and your family.
I'm not the one who needs to be convinced. I'll talk to the wife about it.